Nowadays, it would be pretty hard to find someone who hasn’t experienced long distance in some way or another. Whether it’s with a friend, family or partner – life likes to test us by throwing a curve ball (usually in the form of Uni or work) at those we love the most.
And, although being apart from people you care about, distance can also make your bond stronger. Even if it does come with a few ups & downs.
SO HERE’S THE REALITY
- You will spend your life stuck on transport
Whether this a train, plane, coach or bus, you will end up spending A LOT of time travelling between A and B. You’ll even become a pro at power napping and people watching to pass the time.
- Your bank balance will suffer
Literally, the train ticket for me to see my girlfriend is £70, and that’s with a rail discount! AND that’s before I’ve even arrived – after a meal out, a cinema date and the bus journey back to hers and BAM, almost £150 is gone. Which leads onto my next point ..
- Sometimes you just won’t be able to afford to see each other
Kinda hearbreaking, I know. But at the end of each month when you’re counting down the days till you’re next paid, plans might have to be cancelled or changed cause they’re just not possible.
- You will start to become increasingly jealous of all the “normal” couples/friendships you see around you
At first, it might not be a big deal. But as time goes on and you hear about how easy other people have things, how often other people meet up – you’d give anything to be in a normal situation, a short bus journey across town, instead of miles away from each other. And let me tell you, the jealousy is real.
- “Impromptu” isn’t a word either of you know
You won’t know what it’s like to suddenly decide to go out after a long day at work. Or, “Oh look, my plans have been cancelled. Wanna hang out with me instead?” Nope. Long distance is all about meticulous planning. And for me, “impromptu” is a four hour train journey away. Not exactly convenient.
- Sometimes you just can’t be there for each other
This is probably one of the most stressful things about long distance: not being able to see each other in physical form on those days when you absolutely need it. And after a bad day when all you want is a cuddle, an emoji kiss will just have to make the cut instead.
- Being able to book the same days off might prove a challenge
When you finally do have the dollar to meet up, trying to align your schedules might add to the stress. Being at Uni, I have the luxury of quite a bit of time off – where as others don’t share this blessing. And in the end, this could mean missing out.
- Birthdays, Anniversaries and Holidays are sometimes spent alone
You might end up having to pull a Bridget Jones and sing “Happy Birthday” to yourself cause that special someone or certain friend can’t make it to see you. And during busy holidays, like Christmas, where everyone’s schedules are a little batty (and full), it can be a right push to fit everybody in.
- Sometimes you just won’t want to talk to each other
What I really mean is, taking YOU time can be a little hard. With long distance, it’s not as easy as inviting each other round when you’re tired and want to binge watch your favourite show. But at the same time, you don’t want to come across as rude when you’re a little less-chatty with your other half. Back to my point about being jealous of normality.
- FaceTime/Skype will become a life saver
Although, poor internet connection and lack of phone service will drive you insane. But once you’ve found that spot where the connection seems to work, seeing each other’s faces will brighten your day.